Part 2 of a 2-part series on parenting Nigerian kids abroad
Hey again, lovely parents!
In Part 1, we talked about the heart behind why we do what we do—raising kids who know where they come from, even when they live far away. Now, let’s get into the nitty-gritty: the real-life challenges of parenting Nigerian kids abroad.
Because let’s be honest—it ain’t easy.
Discipline Dilemmas: What Works Where?
Back home, discipline was clear-cut. A hard slap, a stern voice, or a time-out under the mango tree worked wonders. But here? Child services might knock on your door if you try the same approach.
Nigerian parents in the U.S., Canada, UK, and Europe often struggle with adapting discipline styles that respect local laws and our cultural values. Some parents say they’ve learned to focus more on communication, explaining consequences, and leading by example instead of fear.
Education Expectations: High Standards vs. Happy Kids
Many Nigerian parents expect top grades—and we push for it. But in some countries, there’s more emphasis on emotional well-being, creativity, and mental health. So how do we balance high expectations with compassion?
Spoiler alert: It’s possible. We just have to be intentional. Set goals with your child, not for them. Celebrate effort, not just results. And remind them that success isn’t just about becoming a doctor or lawyer—it’s about finding purpose.
Community Is Everything
One of the biggest losses for Nigerian parents abroad is the absence of extended family. No Mama, Tata, or neighbor watching the kids while you work. No Sunday gatherings. No village raising the child.
That’s why building community is non-negotiable. Find other Nigerian parents. Organize potlucks, playdates, or virtual meetups. These connections are lifelines—for us and our kids.
Learning From Others
Other immigrant communities—like Chinese, Indian, and Arab families—have been doing this for decades. They run weekend schools, organize cultural camps, and pass down traditions through storytelling. Nigerian parents are starting to follow suit. Have you joined a Nigerian Saturday school? Thought about starting one?
The Next Generation: Who Are We Raising?
We’re raising kids who code in Python, dream in English, but still call Grandma “Mama” or “Aunty.” Kids who love Afrobeats and anime. Kids who eat okra soup with chopsticks.
And that’s okay. Because as long as they know where they come from, they’ll always have a place to return to—in their hearts.
Let’s Keep the Conversation Going
How do you handle discipline differently now?
What traditions do you fight hardest to keep?
What’s the biggest challenge you face raising Nigerian kids abroad?
Drop your thoughts below—we’re all learning together